UNDERSTAND WHAT EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS ALL ABOUT.
The number key to solving communication issues in marriages is to first have a proper understanding of what communication is all about. Communication is a skill that needs to be developed. As with any skill, some people seem to be able to master it quite easily while others have a harder time. Still, even if you belong to the latter group, it is possible for you to learn to convey your thoughts in a pleasant manner, to communicate effectively. There are many couples that deep inside they yearn to express how they feel about each other. Others, though, decline to do so. Why? It may well be because it takes a measure of effort and skill for them to let others understand how they feel. The reason some families are torn apart and couples divorce each other is because such families/couples were not talking things out when faced with crises. What about husband and wife that have tried to express their feelings but were unable to keep the conversation in a positive note. Instead of building a closer relationship they found themselves embroiled in repeated arguments.
Disagreeing without being disagreeable is easy and always expected in any relationship that desires to thrive. It is said that it takes two to tangle but can two walk together unless they agree?
Over the years, i have come to accept the fact that no one is perfect except the Supreme Being. And there’s nothing like perfect union or flawless relationship! No two individuals on earth are exactly the same. Each one is distinctly different. This also means that no two people will agree on everything. Most of the disagreements may be trivial, but some of them may be serious. There are relationships or even homes in which disagreements quickly give rise to shouting, pushing, hitting, and things being thrown; one partner or the other may leave for a period of days or weeks, or they may simply quit talking to each other. It is quite possible to disagree without having such a situation develop. How? By facing up to a certain basic truth. And what is that truth? Simply, it is that all of us are imperfect, all have flaws, and, despite the best of intentions, weaknesses manifest themselves.
In essence, since we accepts our own weaknesses and make excuse for them, we should also accept and excuse other people’s excesses. Make allowances for them and practice the “golden rule”. If we like to be thought of and treated as an individual, we should also learn to disagree without being disagreeable in our relationships with others!
One of my dear friends lost his dad at a very tender age and having no one to look up to, he felt his world has finally crumbled and he will have to suffer for years. But in the midst of his fears and worries, God told him that he wants to be that Father that he thought he would never have again. Continue reading “A FATHER LIKE NO OTHER!”
God is the potter, and we are the clay. God has got you engraved in the palms of his hands. His eye is still on you just as it has always been on the sparrow. You may be persecuted, abandoned, rejected, dejected, struck down, but one thing is sure.. You will not be destroyed. You will not be crushed. You will not be defeated. You are there in that wilderness, in that situation, or walking along that rough road for a reason. The Potter is about to remold you and make you better, bigger, smarter, wiser, and greater.
Are you burdened with a load of care? Is your life full of ups and downs? Do you have needs to meet and battles to fight? Are you in need of help? There’s an all sufficient God that can help and will help you. All he’s asking you to do is cast that fear, burden, pains, troubles, and whatever it is that is weighing you down on him and he will do the rest. God cares about you! He values you. He sees and knows all that you are going through. And when you allow him to take over your cares, be sure to enjoy a peaceful and satisfying life!
I pray that after reading this post, you will choose to worry less and trust God more.